How to recognize a toxic friend

  

1. Is this a person who always puts you down? A friend is someone who accepts you as you are – and allows you to be different, and to think for yourself, and to make your own decisions – without an explanation. However, if a person is demeaning or always puts you down, criticises your opinions, or the way you dress or look, then that’s someone to avoid as they’re a toxic friend.

2. Do they gossip about you? A friend is someone you can totally trust. You can share your deepest secrets, and say what’s on your mind – and they won’t tell a person or betray your trust. However, if you always have to watch what you say around a friend, as they’re likely to gossip or let a secret slip, then it’s likely that this person is a toxic friend.

3. Do they constantly mock and make fun of you? A bit of gentle ribbing shows affection between friends. But if they’re always making fun of you, or highlighting your faults, or attacking you in public, then they’re not a genuine friend.

4. How do you feel after being with your friend? Think about your answers to the following:

– Do you feel defensive when you spend time with them?

– Do you feel hurt or upset after spending time with them?

– Do you feel as if you always have to justify yourself instead of being “natural” around your friend?

– Do you enjoy their company or do you feel ambivalent?

– Do they undermine your confidence and self-esteem?

– Do you feel attacked and used after spending time with them?

– Does the friendship feel unbalanced and require a lot of work?

– Is it more a competition than a genuine friendship?

Note: If you recognize the signs of a toxic friend, then it’s time to move on and find a different friend. Being with this individual will wreak your happiness.

Putting together an outfit

There are days where I can’t seem to find anything to wear. Although my closet will be full of clothes, I’m not satisfied with the outfits I’m coming up with. I always want to create something new but have a hard time putting together creative outfits when I feel like I’ve worn out everything in my closet! So here are some tips to help get past the morning dilemmas of finding what to wear.1) “I want to look cute! But don’t feel like dressing up today.” – If an outfit just isn’t wanting to come together, stop with the frustration and grab a t-shirt and jeans. I’m always happier when I decide to put off the eccentric outfit that isn’t looking good that day, and pull out my basic pieces. Although I waste my whole morning on an outfit that I didn’t even end up wearing, I’m much more comfortable during the day and I can always try again tomorrow!

2) “It’s too cold to wear this!” – Weather can be a huge pain when deciding what to wear. Especially when you wake up to clouds and hours later the sun is beaming down. But instead of toughing out the early morning chills because you want to wear your favorite crop top, layer up! You can always take off layers throughout the day, but can’t add more if all you’re stuck with is what you’ve got on!

3) “I wore that yesterday!” – I am always telling myself this. When I have go-to pieces it is hard not to wear them to the bone. But if there is a shirt or a pair of pants you want to wear, even though you wore them the day before yesterday, put it on! Jeans especially, no one is going to remember that you wore your dark grey Hudson’s on Tuesday. And if there’s a shirt you like, switch up what you wore with it. Add a skirt instead of jeans, or layer it with a nice jacket! Don’t be afraid to become an outfit repeater! Slowly but surely you will build up your closet to never have to! 

What sort of difficulties do you all have when putting together an outfit? 

how to begin loving yourself

Loving yourself is hard work! The best advice I can give is fake it til u make it. Pretend you love yourself and eventually you will find that you are truly amazing indeed. . Caption photos of yourself “I’m freakin adorable/great/smart/important etc” “love me” “honestly I am amazing!” Etc. look in the mirror and instead of being critical say “damn I look good today!” Find things that make you feel confident: an item of clothing, a shade of lipstick, eyeshadow, a particular way you do eyeliner/eyebrows, no makeup, a pair of shoes, glasses, hair clip. Whatever makes you feel good! Maybe it’s an activity: drawing, swimming, running, doing derivatives, algebra, i dont know enough about science to say something specific but physics! Biology!, doodling on your arm, writing lists, etc. Find what makes you confident (no matter how small) and harness that energy. Feed off of that energy until you can move onto another thing.

“Wow that clip I really like makes my hair look really cute. I like how it frames my face. My face looks really nice with my hair likes this because it points to my mouth really nicely. I like when stuff highlights my mouth cause the shape of my lips is so nice…” and so on. Once you find something you feel good about it can lead you to feel good about something else and something else!
In terms of specifically body image, it can be tough. One good exercise is to, again, find something you like. Look in the mirror and compliment parts of you that you like. This can be hard at first—it feels unnatural and forced, but eventually it becomes easier.
Another idea is dressing in a way that makes you feel more confident. This is something I do. For me this means wearing goofy funky stuff anything you can be creative, it could be a specific pair of pants that you think make your legs look nice, or a certain color that brings out your eyes or looks good with your skin.

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find something small you can like and accept, and build off of it until you’re confident in more and more.

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1. Talk about your body.
2. When someone compliments you, just say thank you.
3. Question the things you used to take for granted.
4. Don’t assign good or bad values to food and exercise.
5. Wear clothes that fit you and make you feel good.
6. Think about activities you’ve always wanted to do but have been too scared to try – and do them.
7. Don’t weigh yourself.
8. No negative self talk.
9. Tell yourself you are awesome.

basic make up tips

Step 1: Foundation

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Understand Your Skin

Your skin type should determine what kind of foundation you choose. If you have dry skin, try a liquid or hydrating powder formula. Use powder or matte products on oily skin. Powder and liquid foundations work well on combination skin.

Find the Right Shade
When selecting a shade of foundation, pick one that matches your neck, arms, and chest rather than your face. “It may look a little strange at first when you put it on, “But it will blend down into your neck and your arm.”

Apply It Correctly
Start by covering your face with primer. If you’re using a liquid formula, put a few drops on a sponge or your fingers; then dab the makeup on your forehead, nose, chin, and cheeks. From the center of your face, blend the makeup into your skin in a downward direction, and work your way out to the edges. “Always apply foundation going down so the little hairs on your face lay down pretty.

Step 2: Powder

Women with normal-to-dry skin can forgo powder, but those with oily skin should use it to reduce shine,

To apply, dip a light and fluffy brush into the product, tap off the excess, and then swipe it over your face, paying special attention to the T-zone. You can also try a powder puff for increased coverage.

Step 3: Bronzer

Choose Your  Type
For a contoured, subtle look, apply a matte formula that will give you a glow. Select a shimmer bronzer if you want to highlight certain features.

Find the Right Shade
Dark tones can easily age you, so use them with caution. “There’s a fine point between healthy and crazy. Start out with a light shade of bronzer and working up to a deeper hue once summer starts.

Apply It Correctly
Feeling up for the task? Using a brush, swipe bronzer where the sun would naturally shine on your face, such as your cheek

bones, forehead, and nose, says Ray. Apply bronzer lightly and slowly build up as desired.

Step 4: Blush

Understand Your Skin Type
If you have normal-to-oily skin, use a powder or cream blush. Make sure to refrain from mixing textures, though. “If you’re using a powder foundation, you have to use a powder blush. “If you’re using a liquid foundation, you can use a cream blush.”

Find the Right Shade
Choose blush tints that corr

Wear cool tone blushes with cool lip colors, and pair warm shades of blush with warm lip colors. When in doubt pick a rose blush that contains hints of brown — this hue generally flatters everyone.

Apply It Correctly
Smile slightly to locate the apples of your cheeks. For both cream and powder formulas, place the blush first on the apples and then blend it toward your hairline.

“If you put too much on, take your same sponge that you use for your makeup, dab it a little bit, and just blend it all in.”

Step 5: Lips

Lipstick
The ideal lip tint will enhance the natural shade of your pucker. Selecting a sheer tone will minimize the chances of a mismatch because your natural color will shine through. “Find a color in the same region of the hue of your lip color, and it will always be correct.”

Lip liner
Stylists recommend a nude, or natural-colored, lip liner for its versatility compared with its more colorful counterparts. It’s much harder to find a color pencil that exactly matches a lipstick, says Ray. “Natural lip liner works with every color.”

Apply It Correctly
Cover your lips with moisturizer. Then line your lips, staying within the natural boundary before applying lipstick. Reversing the order and using lip liner second can help correct any imperfections.

Step 6: Eye Shadow

Understand Your Skin Type
Choose matte formulas to give your skin a smoother and prettier look.

Find the Right Shade
Natural tones such as brown and taupe universally flatter.

Gray and muted purples — including mauve and plum — also create a classic look.

Apply It Correctly
Start by covering the area from the lash line to brow with primer or concealer, patting it in. This will help make your shadow last longer. Blend two shades of eye shadow on your lids. Pick a lighter tone for your base, sweeping it across the area between your lash line and brow. Then cover the lid itself with another layer of shadow, using the darker hue so that the colors blend from darker to lighter, with the darkest shade hitting closest to your eye.

Step 7: Eyeliner

Understand Your Skin Type
Pencil eyeliners resist smearing — ideal for ladies on the go. Up the glam factor with gel liners, which provide water resistance, refrain from smudging, and allow increased control over line thickness.

Choose the Right Shade
Black or dark brown shades flatter most women.

Apply It Correctly
When using a pencil liner, make a line of small dots as close as possible to your lash line. Then, dip a small brush into powder of the same hue as the pencil and swipe it across the line of dots. “It will make a perfect line every time. “Anyone can do it.” Grab a slant brush when using gel liner (if the liner doesn’t include one) to apply the product smoothly across the lash line.

Step 8: Curl Eyelashes

Curl your eyelashes before applying mascara. Using a clamp tool, start at the bottom of your lash line and work your way outward. Clamp once at the base and again at mid-lash; finish with a press at the ends of your lashes.

count to 10 before unclamping the curler.

Step 9: Mascara

Select mascara with a large and fluffy brush to reach every lash.

To apply, start at the root, wiggling the brush back and forth in a left and right motion. “You can lift, define, and separate the lashes all at the same time.

If you’re feeling bold, lightly coat the lower fringe as well.

Step 10: Shape and Define Eyebrows

Visit a professional to initially establish a suitable shape that you can later maintain at home. “Keep brows thick, keep them long.

“The more you play with brows, the harder they are to grow back.”

To define your brows, fill them in using an angled brush dipped in brow powder about two shades lighter than your natural hair color. Try a  taupe powders for women with gray hair. For redheads, eyebrow pencils or powders in a tint that matches their hair color.

If the right shades are unavailable, look for lip liner or eye shadow with red undertones.10933908_632804123491313_7239932042670310571_n

Puerto Ricans

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I am not African. Africa is in me, but I cannot return. I am not Taina. Taino is in me, but there is no way back. I am not European. Europe lives in me , but I have no home there. I am new. History made me. My first language was Spanglish. I was born at the crossroads and I am whole.

—Aurora Levins Morales